Why is that?
I think one of the primary methods is that of controlling morality. Social conventions that women employ; this, along with shaming tactics, is another piece of the puzzle.
I believe the primary reason is that women have co-opted morality to their own ends and thus have not only become the controllers of social behavior but the arbiters and definers of good and evil, as it relates to inter-gender behavior, as well.
I believe that there are two primary causes for this. The first is the nature of man. Most men have an innate tendency (whether it socialized or natural is another question…) to adhere to what they believe is “good”. We need a moral code of behavior, and stick to it, like a fish to water.
When we’re young most of us are indoctrinated with a golden rule- treat others…- version of morality complete with religious indoctrination and the heaven/hell reward scheme for such behavior. To put it succinctly, we’re indoctrinated with a self-sacrificial altrustic ideal as the basis for our morality. This is also known as the slave morality.
Women, on the other hand, have a much greater tendency for amorality. They are not guided so much buy ideals of good/evil as much as they are by the ideas of benefical/non-beneficial; consequently things that benefit them are labeled as “good” and things that don’t are labeled as “bad”. As a result when intergender conflict arises things that benefit a woman are labeled as good and things that don’t are bad.
Man is too busy for wife “he’s a bad husband”
Buy’s jewelry: “Good husband”
Leaves her because she’s a *****: “Bad man”
Stays and takes her sh*t: “He’s a goodman”
The reason these works is becauses of men’s moral code. They accept the social conventions/shaming tactics because in a man’s mind they’re not standards of good/bad but rather a standard of good/evil. For most men, going against them would mean going against their moral code and dealing with both inner and outer moral condemnation for their own “selfish” benefit.
In other words- men are not enslaved by women and shaming tactics. They are enslaved by the slave morality. Women merely employ them to their own benefit.
To rid yourself of manipulations, shaming tactics, and the chains of artificial social conventions you must rid yourself, once and for all, of the self destructive slave morality.